Positive Parenting

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Neuro Linguistic Programming is the study of the  structure of excellence. What does that  mean though to you and I who are parents?

It means that

• you already have all the resources you need to be an excellent parent
• there is no failure only feedback
• if you spot it – you’ve got it
• mind and body are ONE
• the person with the most flexibility rules the system
• if you always do what you’ve always done you will always get what you’ve always got
• the map is not the territory
• there is a positive intention behind every behaviour

These are some of the pre-suppositions of NLP. Each one has a message for us as parents.

I offer therapy to parents and children as well as writing NLP books such as Be a happier parent with NLP and the Engaging NLP series of workbooks, all of which you’ll find in my Amazon store. Probably the most useful piece of learning parents leave me with is that if they focus on the excellence in their child they will get more of it.

What you focus on is what you get

If you find fault, criticise, only notice them when they play up and only talk to their teacher about them when there’s a problem , this is the behaviour you are unconsciously telling them gets attention.

I came to NLP as a mother of four (from toddler to teen) a former Nursery School teacher and a Market Researcher specialising in Children’s products so you can see I have worked with children for a very long time. I was trained by Sue Knight, author of many books on NLP and a very well established International NLP Trainer. As soon as I started discovering NLP, it was only natural to use it with my own children.

I was amazed. NLP tools and techniques made such a huge difference and situations that I had hitherto managed clumsily I was handling with calm and even some elegance and self control. No longer was I being accused of ‘over-reacting’,'being too emotional’, ‘dramatic’ or ‘exaggerating’ on a daily basis but was able to save those reactions for when they would be useful and perform in a controlled and managed way.I found I was less tired, more energized and able to make decisions quickly instead of trying to please everyone all the time.

I am passionate about teaching NLP for parents, children, teenagers and teachers so they can use it themselves on a daily basis. So I run regular workshops and visit families to introduce them to NLP.

Of course I also offer therapy to children and teens to help them tackle issues such as

• anger
• fear
• lack of confidence

Lately I have also been treating their parents for issues relating both to parenting and their own relationship.

You can call me for a FREE initial chat about how NLP could help you or your children on 01628 660618 (00 44 1628 660618) or SKYPE judy.bartkowiak or email judy@nlpkids.com

After that , a full consultation costs £65 face to face or £50 by phone or Skype.

Some people say NLP is a series of tools others say it is a way of life.

I say it is both of these and much more.

Neuro is how we think. It is about the way our conscious and unconscious mind connect to affect what we do and say, how we react to situations and events. NLP provides us with tools and techniques that offer a way to understand how our mind works and understand how other people tick so we can achieve the best in us and help others do the same.

Linguistic is how we express our thoughts  in language whether externally or our inner voice. The words we use affect the effectiveness of our communication whether in spoken word or in writing. Imagine if you could learn to express yourself so that you could have greater influence in your world.

Programming is how we make sense of our experiences and create our own personal development programme.

What we think say and do become patterns or habits such that in certain situations we react in a particular way that is typical for us.

Sometimes this is resourceful and sometimes it isn’t.

When it isn’t, I can help.

You can call me for a FREE short chat about how NLP could help on 01628 660618 (00 44 1628 660618) SKYPE judy.bartkowiak or email judy@nlpkids.com

For more about how I use NLP to treat children and teenagers go to my NLP Kids website

I can help by providing books that cover specific situations or life stages such as my Engaging NLP series of books

• NLP for Parents

• NLP for Children

• NLP for Teens

• NLP for Teachers

• NLP for New Mums

• NLP for Back to work

• Pass the 11+ with NLP
• Advanced driving skills with NLP

If you want to read how NLP can help you become a happier parent my Teach Yourself book ‘Be a happier parent with NLP’ is an excellent read because it covers everything you could possibly want to know about how to use NLP from babies to teens.

You can buy it here or from my Amazon store

Maybe you need to talk about your problems and many people do. You can call me initially to discuss how NLP could help you and get to know me a bit before committing yourself to anything. This does not cost you anything so call me now on 00 44 1628 660618

If you decide to come and see me I charge £100 for  the first consultation lasting an hour and a half. After that I charge £65 an hour.

Or we can do a telephone or Skype consultation for which I charge £50 for an hour. You can pay me this by PayPal which accepts all major credit cards. Click here to book a session.

I also training in the NLP Kids Practitioner Certificate and you can get details of this by emailing me on judy@nlpkids.com

I regularly run workshops and you can find out about these by joining the NLP Kids Facebook page  NLP Kids Linked In group or the Engaging NLP Facebook Page